Happy New Year first of all. New year new goals and lots of people has new years resolutions. It is okay but what do you need to get your goal? First of all if you want something why are you waiting for a new week, month, year? If you want something get a plan to get it now and not later.
Research says lots of people stop to work to get what they want in couple of weeks. The most common reason for participants failing their New Years’ Resolutions was setting themselves unrealistic goals (35%), while 33% didn’t keep track of their progress and a further 23% forgot about it. About one in 10 respondents claimed they made too many resolutions.
Okay so want to get your goals hard. What to do then?
- settle down a realistic goal
- get a plan, if you need help get someone who can help you to make one
- and the most important. Don’t change, “The goal is to keep the goal, the goal! Focus on it, don’t get caught up in a bunch of other things”.
Be realistic. You need to begin by making resolutions that you can keep and that are practical. If you want to reduce your alcohol intake because you tend to drink alcohol every day, don’t immediately go teetotal. Try to cut out alcohol every other day or have a drink once every three days. Also, breaking up the longer-term goal into more manageable short-term goals can be beneficial and more rewarding. The same principle can be applied to exercise or eating more healthily.
Do one thing at a time. One of the easiest routes to failure is to have too many resolutions. If you want to be fitter and healthier, do just one thing at a time. Give up drinking. Give up smoking. Join a gym. Eat more healthily. But don’t do them all at once, just choose one and do your best to stick to it. Once you have got one thing under your control, you can begin a second resolution.
Tell someone your resolution. Letting family and friends know that you have a New Year’s resolution that you really want to keep will act as both a safety barrier and a face-saver. If you really want to cut down smoking or drinking, real friends won’t put temptation in your way and can help monitor your behaviour. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and support from those around you.
Change your behaviour with others. Trying to change habits on your own can be difficult. For instance, if you and your partner both smoke, drink and eat unhealthily, it is really hard for one partner to change their behaviour if the other is still engaged in the same old bad habits. By having the same resolution, such as going on a diet, the chances of success will improve.
Don’t limit yourself
Changing your behaviour, or some aspect of it, doesn’t have to be restricted to the start of the New Year. It can be anytime.
Accept lapses as part of the process. It’s inevitable that when trying to give up something (alcohol, cigarettes, junk food) that there will be lapses. You shouldn’t feel guilty about giving in to your cravings but accept that it is part of the learning process. Bad habits can take years to become ingrained and there are no quick fixes in making major lifestyle changes. These may be clichés but we learn by our mistakes and every day is a new day – and you can start each day afresh.
If you think this all sounds like too much hard work and that it’s not worth making resolutions to begin with, bear in mind that people who make New Year’s resolutions are ten times more likely to achieve their goals than those who don’t.
I have seen many people who started to work for something, it was more difficult then they thought and changed every month what they were working for. Looks like a ship on the sea which one always changing the destination and one day they going to get somewhere but not where they started to.
And finally if you get what you worked hard for, your dream, goals is great. After the long journey what makes a person better, stronger you just realise not the main goal is the most important but the hard work you put into!
Never give it up, keep fighting hard and get all the things what makes you happy!